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5 reasons 2: Just Fucking Own It!

Updated: Jun 9


1: Realise your dreams


I know everybody says it! But I am saying it again so hopefully it sinks in for all of us!


The only person stopping us from chasing and realizing our dreams is ourselves, well actually our minds. It’s our mind that sets the limitations, our mind that creates the fear, and our mind that drives all of the stress and anxiety.


It is our minds that make us doubt ourselves at every turn.


Please STOP listening to your mind. Instead listen to your intuition, listen to your gut, follow your heart and soul and ignore that pesky, shitty little doubter of your mind.


In his book ‘The Power of Now’ Eckhart Tolle tells us to “watch your mind”.


These 3 simple words changed my perspective and made me aware of just how crazy my mind was, and still is to be honest. It made me ‘see’ what my mind was doing, how it was overpowering me with doubts, worry, hesitation and fear.


It made me realize that my mind was controlling me, instead of me controlling it. Now I pay attention to my thoughts. I watch them all the time, and I tell them to be quiet.


Sometimes in the loo – out loud – I’m sure people think I’m crazy, but hell it works!!

Repeat after me;

“You are not your mind, and your mind is not you!”

2: Have no regrets


We only ever regret what we didn’t do!


What would you rather be thinking when mortality finally catches up with you? Will you look back with regret and wonder ‘what if’?


Will you wish that you had taken that trip? Worn that outfit? Eaten that cake? Or started that business? Whoever left the gym after a workout and said “I wish I hadn’t done that?”


Why die with regret. What have you got to lose? Really.


When I’m wondering – should I/shouldn’t I? - I always ask myself what is the worst thing that could happen? When you look at things from this perspective it makes it easier to step out, take a chance and ‘Just fucking own it!’ There is always another job, another partner, another opportunity or another path.


Don’t you want to leave a legacy by showing others that you CAN take a chance and change your life? And that they can do it to.


If you really want to do something, anything, just fucking do it. Ignore the doubters, the critics, the naysayers – including your own mind! And do it anyway! And if you change just one life in doing it, by showing them they way, then you can leave this world with no regrets knowing that you made a difference.


And maybe, just maybe, you will change hundreds or even thousands! But you will never know unless you TRY.


3: Live the Life you Love


We are only here on this gorgeous planet for a short time. Why waste it doing anything that doesn’t bring you joy?


I mean, I get it, we all have responsibilities, houses, cars, kids, fur babies etc. but how much do we really need? We are bombarded with ‘reasons’ telling us that we always need more, bigger, better! But do we really? Does it truly bring us Joy?


WHY do we need a bigger house, a more flashy car, more money in the bank, more useless stuff? Does this make your heart happy? Does it make you feel good? Does it make you a better person? You can’t take it with you, you know!!


Ask yourself these questions if you are stuck living a life that you don’t love. Are you living this life just so that you can have a bigger house, a better car, more stuff.


Who are you doing it for? What are you doing it for?? Why are you doing it??


If it makes you truly happy then great – go for it – but stop complaining that you aren’t living the life you love. And suck it up! But if you aren’t, if these things don’t make you happy, it’s time to take a step back and re-evaluate.


What do you really want? What really brings you joy? And I don’t mean what makes you happy temporarily – I mean what really makes your soul happy, what truly brings you pleasure and makes your heart sing. If you really think about it, and I mean really think about it, I know you will make different decisions.


Ask yourself, could you downsize your house to realize your dreams and work part time, so you can spend more time with your kids? What’s stopping you? How big does your house need to be, if you can live in your dream location? Could you sell your expensive car and buy a used one – saving your car payment $$$ to travel the world and live your dream life? – Why not?


Or you could just sell the kids I guess!


4: Break up with your past


Memories are great. We should all make more of them with people we love, doing things we enjoy, but do you live there? Are you always reminiscing about how great things ‘used to be’? With those rose colored spectacles of yours. Forgetting all of the bad - only remembering the good? Are you consistently saying ‘remember when………….’


Or are you the opposite? Always looking back and blaming the past for all of your current misfortunes or setbacks. What is it that your parents did or didn’t do that gives you an excuse for everything? What bad thing happened to you in the past that makes it ok for you to be a victim forever? Shit happens man. It’s life. Get over it!


We are all the sum of all of our past experiences – good and bad, happy or sad.


Do you like who you are today? Are you a good person? Do you treat people with respect? Are you humble and kind? Are you happy? I really hope so. And if you answered yes to these questions then be Grateful. Be Grateful for all of your past experiences.


Every. Single. One. Of them.


The good, the bad and the ugly, because they made you this way. They taught you patience, humility, compassion, empathy, strength and more.


If you answered no, if you don’t look in the mirror and like yourself – then how can we change that. How can you see things differently? Can you look back at those experiences from an alternate perspective, with a different lens? Can you try?


What has been a huge help for me to me overcome my own challenges, is to always ask myself – Not WHY is this happening/has this happened to me? But instead WHAT is this trying to teach me? From this angle every experience becomes a gift, and an opportunity to learn and grow, instead of something to be bitter about. Try it!


5: Ask for help


This is my personal life lesson! And I work on it every day. My upbringing, my early years, in fact all of my years I have always done it myself. I realised early that if I wanted something, anything, I needed to go get it, I needed to do it for myself. I couldn’t rely on anyone else, and to expect anything from anyone would make me vulnerable and lead to disappointment.


Let me tell you – though I’m sure you already know – this is a hard habit to break after 40+ years.


That’s why I left this to number 5. Believe me when I say that I haven’t mastered numbers 1 through 4 yet. I work on them every single day. But this one, this one is especially hard for me. To be vulnerable, to trust, to believe and to rely on others, to ask for help and accept it graciously. Not. Easy!


I believe that is why 5 Reasons 2 was born. The whole premise originated around the idea of building a community – which ironically translates as

“A group of people that depend on one another.”

Me depending on others?! Ha! You’ve got to be kidding. But here I am working on building a community. Working on an idea that will only succeed if I ask for help and learn to depend and trust others. So I am grabbing my life lesson by the horns, stepping out and asking you for help.


I’m asking you to join this community. I’m asking you to spread the word and encourage others to join too. I’m asking you to write an article, post a comment, to share your thoughts on your passions, your struggles, your dreams and/or your nightmares. I’m asking you to give advice and to listen to others opinions, even if they are different to your own.


I am asking for your help. And this time I really am depending on you!


Love & Sparkles x

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